Liam – Age 1

At 1 year old Liam was sweet. He was chubby, cuddly and ours. Squeezable cheeks and all, he was full of love. My fondest memories of Liam that year was in the fall for some reason. In Connecticut, we had a gorgeous fall in 2012 and Lindsey seemed to really embrace it by taking Liam to local farms, fairs and orchards, etc. It was a really nice time for us as a family.

Liam’s  personality started to form. He began making relationships with his toys and surroundings. His leather chair my brother so graciously bought and “Scout” his intelligent teddy bear come to mind! Of course it would be some serious negliance on my end if I didn’t mention the 2 biggest moments of all, his walking and talking careers began.

Trips to Boston and all around CT were great. We were growing as a family and it was truly a magical year in my estimation. Liam was still a new addition but that year he really felt a part of us and I felt we really were a part of his life. Liam saying “Mommy” and “Daddy” for the first time are moments I will never forget.

 

Liam – Newborn

What else is there to say other than when your baby gets born your life changes. I’m not sure I knew what to expect when Liam came in our lives, but he did with no apologies. The first year of having Liam was challenging yet rewarding. I learned firsthand what it was like to take my complete focus off of me and put it on someone else.

When I look back now with a clear head I could see that I had no idea what we were getting ourselves into. That’s how life is isn’t it? You’re never going to know the full details until you actually do it. I was scared.

Liam being introduced into our lives was nothing short of a miracle. A blessing to be more exact. With every day I try to become a better father than the day before and I don’t know if I actually do that. But I know that I’m going to continue trying. That first year shaped a lot of who I am now a taught me how to not worry about myself anymore had to put my complete focus and energy into other people. My family.

Lot of diapers, lot of sleepless night (for Lindsey) but a lot more great memories and inspiring beginnings.

 

See ya for age 1 video net week!

 

Incoming Liam Videos

The next few Tuesdays leading up to my son’s 4th birthday (10/21.10/28, 11/4 and 11/11) I will be posting his videos that I have made documenting his life yearly. I understand that many of you have been wanting me to return writing “opinionated” viewpoints and such. I am indeed working on some of those, but between getting Liam’s age 3 video ready, the bi-weekly movie reviews for the Georgia Tribune and my book on making my film, time has really been tight.

Also and more importantly this blog was an idea to document happenings and feelings. Documenting Liam and my families growth is paramount to me personally.

Thank you for all the positive feedback on me and Lindey’s 5th year anniversary video. Although it was intended for us, it was really cool to hear encourage words form you all :)

Pageantry of Vanity + Digital Insanity

The average attention span of an adult today is 1 second lower than a goldfish.

Including me, What more do we need to know in order to stop connecting with our devices and start connecting with others? I’m not suggesting throwing your device into an ocean, but a healthy balance would be a desirable achievement at this point. Kind of scary, mostly sad.

Film Review: Gone Girl

From the mind of Novelist Gillian Flynn and directed for the screen by acclaimed Filmmaker David Fincher (The Social Network, Fight Club) Gone Girl doesn’t simply offer you one type of movie. Marketing certainly will tell you this is a simple “whodunit” mystery film and in my estimation, that is a very flawed expectation to put on audiences. Gone Girl is not only an exceptional film by an exceptional story teller, but it also strives as an in depth look into the psychology and dynamics of relationships.

On the occasion of his fifth wedding anniversary, Nick Dunne (Ben Affleck) reports that his wife, Amy (Rosamund Pike) , has gone missing. Under pressure from the police and a growing media frenzy, Nick’s portrait of a blissful union begins to crumble. Soon his lies, deceits and strange behavior have everyone asking the same dark question: Did Nick Dunne kill his wife?

THE GOOD
Like I mentioned earlier, Gone Girl is much less about a missing person story than it is about the human condition. Expectations, self-importance and pride play a big role into understanding Gone Girl. The Film is hugely fueled by two characters who simply grow out of love for each other and grow into love with themselves. At heart Gone Girl is a marriage fable. But this isn’t the fantasy of an idealized romance. It’s the tale of the relationship as a prison. A jail that locks two people in a dungeon desiring to break free. The dialogue attempts to present both sides of their failed union. Simply put, Gone Girl is a he said/she said account and done very effectively. As the viewer, you’re not quite sure who to trust or which narration to invest your energy into. This makes for an extremely slippery, emotional ride.

Another great aspect is how the film draws parallels seamlessly with the modern day media and the main character’s trust issues. What initially appears to be important is made irrelevant. What seems insignificant is made crucial. The reality is always deeper than what is readily apparent. Gone Girl highlights this fact. And by doing so, not only entertains, but also educates us in how truth is merely a moldable concept of the modern media age or in Gone Girl’s case, the main character who is narrating at the moment.

A bit on the acting, Rosamund Pike is doing some really heavy lifting here. She is fantastic throughout the movie and really elevates this film to a new level. Ben Affleck is no slouch either, actually the whole cast is very, very strong. The acting all comes together very natural and like a completed puzzle, all fit into their roles accordingly.

The music also is thoughtfully textured and tailored just right to instill appropriates moods. Trent Reznor and Atticus Ross deserve much praise for making the score fit seamlessly into such an emotional movie. The music in Gone Girl really complements the visual themes well and does just what a great score should do by aiding the film in mood and energy.

THE BAD
Unfortunately Gone Girl suffers from what much of Hollywood mainstream media suffers from nowadays, unnecessary vulgarity. I personally didn’t appreciate how vulgar and graphics some scenes were. It’s an unfortunate thing considering “Gone Girl” didn’t need this level of explicitly to elevate it anymore than it would have been lacking it. The film is rated R but sometimes feels like it exceeds it rating in content.

THE VERDICT
Gone Girl is not an easy movie to sit through, but that doesn’t mean it’s not a great movie. The best definition I can give it is a slippery slide of a suspense thriller that will tug your sympathies, while springing twists and traps with stomach-lurching suddenness.

Gone Girl’s echoing dialogue between main characters states “What are you thinking? How are you feeling? What have we done to each other?” By the end of the movie, the characters were no longer uttering this to each other, but the movie was asking this to me, in which I still cant form a definitive answer.

Gone Girl is a moody, meticulously crafted thriller that will shock and engage you from it’s opening moment to its final powerful shot.

9/10

September 2014

September was an interesting month. The Apple stuff pretty much consumed my time. Doing research on what they finally announced was really rewarding. Although I believe Apple is changing from the company I once really enjoyed and admired, their future is exciting. I ended up purchasing a iPhone 6, which is really fantastic. I’m still working on my review for the blog.

The world of firefighting also got vamped up. We had 3 fires and I played a pretty significant role in all of them. It’s really great to be in a totally new world where I can set my own expectations within the my boundaries. I feel as if this career has been waiting on me, and I feel very welcome and comfortable in it. I am eager to learn more and I know as time flies on I will undoubtedly be reaching untraveled territory. In my own studies, I have started researching EMS and Paramedic practices. Not for a degree of any means, but just a good reference for my job and the well being of people around me.

As of September 25, linds and I have been married 5 years. While some of what marriage brings has been challenging to me, I feel eternally blessed to have someone like lindsey to spend the rest of my life with. She is continually generous and loving in an genuine way.

Another thing worth noting is Lindsey is continually doing well in school. I have no idea how she balances her life and gives so much attention to so many things. It takes a special person to do that. I believe she is genuinely excited about her future and the next step (after school) of her life. She deserves whatever God has for her.

I also started incorporating long walks to my days. This was something I did at a young age and kind of lost track of how much I enjoy them. Now that I have (some) free time, I have ramped that up and honestly it has been great. I am able to think clearly about things and quiet down my life in a controlled manner. Which is nice and a change from my previous couple years of living.

October brings Autumn and while in Georgia, that will not be relevant. It does my heart good to know somewhere in CT someone someone is admiring a crisp breeze and foliage while sipping a warm apple cider.