Black Friday

If you haven’t already had the opportunity to check out Matt D’Avella’s Stuff, your really missing out. He and The Minimalists are a much welcomed breath of fresh air.

Anyways, Matt’s newest video is a fantastic analysis on Black Friday and while nothing he presents is groundbreaking new information, that’s the most powerful aspect about it. We all are fully aware of how ridiculous Black Friday is, yet we participate like uncultured maniacs.

I like how he ends his video:

Hurry up! This is a limited time offer! Only while supplies last! Up to 60, 70, 80 percent off! But the truth is these things won’t provide sustainable happiness and the best deal you’ll ever get this Black Friday, is not buying into the hype.

Listen, I’m not saying don’t participate in getting a good deal if you have a need. By all means, it’s actually financially wise to participate. Just don’t let it define your happiness. That leads down a long, dark, lonely road of discontent. And there’s nothing more the machine of consumerism would love.

You + Discontent = 😢

Liam – AGE 7

He’s a little man.

That sums up Liam’s previous year nicely. His conversations are longer, his questions are deeper and our answers demand rational explanations. If not, he will call us on it.

Liam has achieved so much this past year. From reading books way beyond his age to maturing into a loving and caring older brother (for one of this brothers.) It’s hard to look at Liam and not see the gentleness his soul inhabits. Sure, he has his moments of acting out, etc. But in all fairness, so do I. I couldn’t be prouder to be his dad.

Happy 7th Birthday Liam, your true colors are beginning to show.

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Fact, Belief & UFOs

Anyone who knows me well, knows I am a very open minded person who has some “interesting” beliefs about the cosmos and it’s inhabitants. To say it plainly: UFOs. But recently I have been drawing some striking parallels with my beliefs, the current social climate and you guessed it: UFOs.

In our time on earth, human beings have learned that information — or its absence — can be the difference between life and death. For our ancestors, not knowing a tiger was prowling outside the cave could constitute a fatal lack of knowledge.

We live in a time when the lines between knowledge and belief are increasingly blurred.

Personally, I find it helpful in any situation or thought process to separate information into four categories:

  • Information that I know
  • Information that I think
  • Information that I believe
  • Information that I don’t know

Let me be clear, it is tempting to confuse information I know to be factual with information I believe to be true.

Unfortunately, the confusion between fact and belief can foreclose our ability to receive actual facts and data with an open mind. As you can imagine, when it comes to everyday life and agenda pushing, knowing and believing can be two entirely different things.

As a gigantic recent example, prior to Operation Iraqi Freedom, the U.S. Government conflated its knowledge of Saddam Hussein’s military capabilities with the belief that Saddam Hussein had weapons of mass destruction.

This “confusion” of information ultimately led to the Iraq War. Without passing on the validity of the invasion, the rationale that weapons of mass destruction (and oil) would be unleashed on the U.S. by pro-Al Qaeda Iraqi forces was definitely flawed.

It’s hard work to revise deeply-held notions about what’s fact and what isn’t, but it’s crucial that we try. There’s a lot at stake. For personal growth, for my well being and yours. We can’t make progress unless we learn to distinguish between fact and belief.

There’s been significant social stigma in recent decades around the topic of UFOs because it’s so often associated with weird conspiracies and, in some cases, straight-up con artists. And many of those who do believe that UFOs exist really only want to believe in aliens, which limits meaningful progress in the field.

If we continue to act on belief alone rather than accompanied by knowledge, we slow down progress and prevent ourselves from understanding the natural state of things. Many innovations which the public was initially skeptical of — like the computer, X-rays, and even the internet — turned out to be extremely beneficial to mankind. It took overcoming cynicism and opening ourselves up to unfamiliar but factual data and observations for society to fully take advantage of these breakthroughs.

Knowledge doesn’t necessarily have to be at odds with belief, but any well-grounded belief should always make room for new knowledge. Sometimes that’s tough to swallow.

Today, there are entire industries that profit from obscuring the truth by conflating facts with supposition. (cough facebook cough.)  Tabloids and gossip columns organize their entire business model based on publishing salacious, yet mostly uncorroborated stories. The logic being, if it’s mostly true, then the entire thing must be true, too.

Social media serves to further confuse what we know to be true and what we believe might be true. With a click of a button, people are sharing their opinions as facts, and now more than ever, people are willing to believe in those opinions as facts. I’m not going to beat that dead horse anymore. 

One has to look no further than the gluttony of web celebrities pushing commercial goods, from miracle cosmetics to diet remedies to spiritual wellness, each spokesperson du jour swearing by their product, only to move on to another one the next week.

Likewise, politicians frequently frame campaign promises in terms of belief. They promise they’ll lower taxes, educate more children, or feed more people, relying on their constituents will believe their words rather than know their voting track record.

As voters soon find out, these proclamations are usually based less on facts and more on emotional and personal beliefs. In fact, entire campaign slogans often blur the lines deliberately between knowing and believing. One of the most popular and effective slogans in recent history was recently used by a former Presidential candidate; “Change you can believe in.”

Again, I am not passing judgment on any particular party — both parties do it as a habit. But as a voter, it is important to distinguish between a campaign fact and a campaign belief.

I’m getting off topic…

Bottom line: My personal growth hinges on my ability to accept new information.

In 17th-century Salem, Massachusetts, villagers’ unfounded beliefs that certain individuals were witches and warlocks were taken as fact, resulting in the torture, drowning, and burning of innocent people. In the present day, of course, we are repulsed by such ignorance, yet it persists in many parts of the world.

But whether you’re talking about “witches,” government policies, or anomalies in the sky, it’s critical that we learn how to distinguish between fact and belief.

In my opinion, the only thing worse than lacking knowledge is attempting to make decisions based on a false belief.

Even if UFOs aren’t your thing. When you take into account all the recent news and borderline bombshells written in very established reporting circles, you would be remised to turn your cheek. Such letting your beliefs influence possible facts.

Humans have only been able to accomplish all that we have because we are able to receive and process new information, and adapt to new realities. As for the topic of Unidentified Aerial Phenomena and the wonder of outer space, we have a choice. We can allow our beliefs to fill in the gaps or we can continue to doggedly pursue data in hopes that what we know informs what we believe.